what Eyes Contact can do for you

 

contact

[英]['kɒntækt][美][ˈkɑnˌtækt]

n.接触; 触点; [医](传染病)接触人; 门路; 

vt.使接触; 与…联系; 与…通讯(或通话); 

vi.联系,接触; 

第三人称单数:contacts过去分词:contacted现在进行时:contacting过去式:contacted 

例句:

  1. And contact the local chamber of commerce.
    与当地商会联系。

  2. Make ( virtual) eye contact.
    进行(虚拟的)眼神接触。

  3. Contact people you know at the company.
    联络该公司你认识的人。

    Upon contact, the pheromone is sent to sex-specific regions in the female's brain.
    当接触的时候,信息素被传送到雌鼠大脑里的性别区域。

    Malaysian cuisine has become interlinked with traditional chinese foods because of their increasing contact.
    马来西亚的菜肴与中国传统菜肴有渊源,因为两国的日益加深的交往。

    eyes can speak

  Much meaning can be conveyed, clearly, with our eyes, so it is often said that eyes can speak.

   Do you have such kind of experience? In a bus you may look at stranger, but not too long. And if he is sensing that he is being stared at, he may feel uncomfortable.The same in daily life. If you are looked at for more than necessary, you will look at yourself up and down, to see if there is anything wrong with you. If nothing goes wrong, you will feel angry toward other’s stare with you that way. Eyes do speak, right?Looking too long at someone may seem to be rude and aggressive. But things are different when it comes to stare at the opposite sex. If a man glances at a woman for more than 10 seconds and refuses to avert his gaze, his intentions are obvious, that is, he wishes to attract her attention, to make her understand that he is admiring her.However, the normal eye contact for two people engaged in conversation is that the speaker will only look at the listener from time to time, in order to make sure that the listener does pay attention to what the former is speaking, to tell him that he is attentive.If a speaker looks at you continuously when speaking, as if he tries to dominate you, you will feel disconcerted. A poor liar usually exposes himself by looking too long at the victim, since he believes in the false idea that to look straight in the eye is a sign of honest communication. Quite the contrary.In fact, continuous eye contact is confined to lovers only, who will enjoy looking at each other tenderly for a long time, to show affection that words cannot express.Evidently, eye contact should be done according to the relationship between two people and the specific situation.

Conclusion

In this lesson we discuss the importance of eye contact and a connection with the audience. We discuss specific reasons and things to keep in mind about eye contact and its usefulness. It also stress benefits we may not usually associate with eye contact. 

the main content

Last time  we discussed the differences between public and private speaking

and the challenges a speaker faces when attempting to

keep an audience awake and interested in what they have to say

Today we will focus on eye contact

as both a practical skill and a tool we can use in public speaking

In conversation 

the threat of having to speak

is one reason why we are forced to pay attention

but unfortunately that is not available to public speakers

However  there is another form of pressure in conversation

Imagine that you and a friend are sitting together  you are having a conversation

your friend is telling a boring story 

you don't really want to listen to the boring story

but out of politeness  you must listen

Beyond that  if your friend is looking at you 

then he can see your behavior and your reactions to the story

As a result 

you are under threat and have to try and keep up appearances

pretend that you are interested

Similar to this  a speaker can employ a similar pressure

The audience may not have to speak 

but their behavior and actions are still visible to the speaker

Keeping people under surveillance

can make people feel the need to appear like they are paying attention

I've found that focusing on one person when I'm in a class or teaching

if I look at them for one or two seconds 

they'll probably nod their head

Why is this?

Partially it's because of this threat of responding 

of telling us that there is some way that I'm listening

Very often 

it's a positive reaction that we will receive if we look at someone

and concentrate on them for a while

Eye contact to check audiences' reactions is extremely important

Not only can you look at an audience 

scan the room  and watch what people are doing

it helps you

to get a better idea of how people are reacting to your speaking

Often times  it may be a positive reaction that you see

when people are looking back at you  nodding  listening

Other times  it might be a negative reaction

We may see scrunched faces 

implying that they don't know what's going on or that they don't understand

It can be very clear when someone

starts to look away or starts to look at a cell phone

or does anything that might

be a negative type of reaction to what you are saying

If you see something like this  then it should be a signal to you

that you are doing something wrong with your speaking

So it's a very good way of finding out

how you are doing and engaging the audience

Also  eye contact is important in engaging the audience

in terms of how well they'll receive your speech

By this I mean eye contact is valued by audiences

Audiences want to feel like you're interested in them

If you are simply reading the script or reading the speech

to your audience  it will appear though you are not interested in them

If you do not have to look at the audience 

why should the audience look at you?

This is an important thing that some people sometimes forget

especially when they have some PPTs

or something on the screen that they will look at

Sometimes you may find

that the PPT is almost like a strong magnet for the eyes

it's like a light that draws us as moths

We simply cannot look away from the PPTs

The words on the screen  they seem to pull both your audiences' attention 

but it can also be a problem for the speaker themselves

The speaker may end up reading all of the PPTs on the screen

with their back to the audience

You do not want to turn your back to your audience 

you always want to keep your eyes forward and present

and show that you're paying attention to your audience

Sometimes you may not even realize

how much of the time you are paying attention to your screen

or whatever you have to show to your audience

One way of trying to avoid this

is to simply touch what you're talking about

Turn back to the audience and then talk about what you touched

Some people have an issue with making eye contact with the audience

Part of this can be because maybe they are nervous 

they don't want to look their audience members in the eye

This is a symptom of not being confident in yourself

For the most part  audiences want to listen to you

They've made an effort to come to your speech 

they have made an effort to listen to you

and they are there to hear what you have to say

That is enough to tell you

that they are not inherently wanting you  trying to  looking for you to fail

They don't want you to fail

They would rather that you were interesting to listen to

Audiences don't want to be bored  audiences don't want to fall asleep

Making eye contact with your audience

can help your audience feel as though they are engaged

One of the things that you should not do is look at the ceiling

It makes you look as though you are nervous 

that you don't know for sure what you're talking about

It doesn't make you appear confident

One of the things that people do also

is look at the back of the room

or look at the desks in front of people

When you do that 

people can tell that you are not actually looking at them

You shouldn't be afraid 

because the audience  as I have said  doesn't want you to fail

Eye contact with those people will actually

make them give good feedback to you  as I have said before

That good feedback is something that should help you and make you less nervous

Feel confident in looking at your audience  because they do want you to succeed

One other issue that people do have sometimes is that

they'll look at the same people

Sometimes people focus on the person

that they think is the most important in the room

to the detriment of everyone else who is around

Often times  people don't even know

that they are only looking to one side of the room

and the other side of the room doesn't even have any eye contact

Two people from the same speaking event

may have different opinions of how good the speaker was

based on either having less eye contact or having more eye contact

You may not even know if you are doing it

It's safest to assume that you do have this problem

and that you do look particularly to one side or to another side

When that happens  it's best to simply try and scan the room

using a pattern of going across going back

and looking at everyone instead of simply looking randomly

Now one other that may occur is that you'll have a speech to read

Looking up and down at the speech is not an issue

If you have the speech  you should not read the speech entirely

you should simply read and speak  read and speak  looking up and down

This may take some practice

and you may want to have read the speech enough

so that you already have parts of that memorized

When doing this  make sure to read ahead

so that you have read the sentence that you are already going to say

so that you can look up  say it 

and then look down and read ahead again  and continue to do this

And in that way 

you'll appear to both be reading the speech but also looking at the audience

Delayed eye contact while reading the speech is acceptable

Your audience won't recognize that you are taking these pauses

because you won't always be looking at the same person in the audience

So this is one way of using a prepared speech and delivering it

so that your audience can still have the benefit of your eyes on them

Eye contact is extremely important

Engaging the audience  threatening them with your eyes and surveillance

all of these things cannot be taken for granted

And it is one of the most important practical skills that you can learn

Thank you for listening to me speak today on this video

I hope you have learnt something