Controlling Nervousness with Confidence

confidence

       [英]['kɒnfɪdəns] [美][ˈkɑnfɪdəns]

n.信心; 信任; 秘密; 

adj.骗得信任的; 欺诈的; 

       复数:confidences

 

1.But this confidence building measure seems to have backfired. 
          但这一旨在重建市场信心的措施似乎适得其反。

2.Confidence alone isn't cause for concern. 
          自信并不是人们关注1美元年薪CEO的唯一原因。

3.His confidence in me became stronger. 
          他对我的信任与日俱增。

4.We can say a few things with confidence. 
          我们能够有把握地做出一些论断。

5.Confidence is greater than fear. 
          自信比恐惧更强大。

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Last time we discussed eye contact as a tool

in keeping the audience awake and engaged

I mentioned that sometimes this can be difficult for speakers who are

nervous about looking into the eyes of their audience

Being nervous or scared in front of an audience is common

In fact  most people are nervous before every public speaking engagement

Even people who speak publicly on a daily basis

are subject to an adrenaline rush before stepping in front of an audience

Being in the spotlight  having people watching your every move can trigger nervous energy

Some people freeze up and experience stage fright  

Really the stage can be the stuff of nightmares

So if experienced speakers and performers can feel nervous and fearful

how do they still perform?

Most often it is a matter of understanding the nervousness

challenging it and then channeling it to help you

Nervous energy can overload our brains and make us want to shut down

I sometimes see students who try to hide when forced to speak

They keep their head down  read a speech out loud

But that’s not public speaking

In the wild  when faced with danger

the human body receives a surge of adrenaline

and we call this response the fight or flight response

This is what is happening when we stand in front of an audience

Everyone’s eyes on us become a perceived threat to our survival

Knowing that this surge is coming is the first step to conquering that fear

There are a couple other things to keep in mind

that may help you overcome nervousness

As I have said earlier  most audiences do not inherently want you to fail

They have come to see you speak  

They have invested time in doing so

Additionally  you must remember that you are the expert on the topic

Whatever you have come to say  you have prepared to present it

Your preparation and knowledge of your material makes you the expert

Remember this because it can be empowering to remember 

that as the expert you are in control of the situation

Controlling the situation again demands eye contact

I cannot stress enough the importance of watching your audience

As I’ve said before looking into someone’s eyes for a few moments

is likely to elicit a positive response

But beyond that  examining your audience should tell you that they are normal people

and not the enemy your body is telling you they are

As for things that you can do yourself  remember to breathe calmly and slowly

Force yourself to smile

even if you do not feel like doing so

The physical action of smiling

can help to take you out of your head

and help you to focus on speaking

Most importantly  this is a fight or flight reaction  so fight!

Do not bury your head in the sand

by hiding behind notes or PowerPoint presentations

Don’t run away 

Use the nervous energy to pull your emotions into your speaking

Use the energy to create passion  interest and above all be alive

Your audience wants to stay interested

and being animated will help you to draw them in

Being energetic is a huge component to being a good speaker

Public speaking is not easy and it requires energy and effort

Use every bit to help you

Now it is all well and good for me to tell you this

But until you are actually on the stage

and you feel what it is like for yourself

you won’t know for sure how you will react

The biggest thing you can do

is to practice your speech or presentation over and over again

Be sure to read it out loud 

You must practice it out loud so that you can hear yourself

Practice in front of mirror so that you can see yourself

Even when you can’t say it out loud 

imagine yourself speaking and moving in front of the audience

I personally still  before every speaking engagement

will prepare myself while going to sleep

running the words over in my head and picturing myself delivering the speech

If you are prepared  even if you get nervous 

your body will respond the way you have taught it to respond

In terms of public speaking as a skill 

the more you speak in public  the more familiar you will become with nervousness

Every speaking opportunity is another chance for you to practice and face your fears

Over time the feeling may become so familiar

that you may not recognize it as nervousness

but simply as energy that you can use in your performance

There are many ways to address fear and nervous energy

and hopefully you will all fight and face it head on when it comes

In the next couple of lessons we will be discussing more practical tools

in delivery and performance

I look forward to seeing you next time

Conclusion

This video focus on the pressure we feel in a public setting and the ways we might be able to be more confident. It delves into the reactions of our physical body, which by understanding can help our confidence.

How to gain confidence

Smile and glance at the audience;

Start  very slowly, with your shoulders back and your chin up;

Open your speech by saying something very frankly;

Wear your very best clothes;

Say something positive to yourself